I am a pansexual, polyamorous, sensualist and very gently dominant man, born Mayday 1956, currently living near Leatherhead, Surrey, England, probably moving very soon further south towards Sussex or Hampshire.

I am in a LTR with a lovely post-op TS lady, who happily shares my tastes in many things, including BDSM. I am also in the process of divorce after a very long marriage during which we just grew apart, having met as teenagers 33 years ago. She never accepted my sexuality, couldn't match my libido and didn't understand kink at all, but I did love her very much and still do. I have no regrets, we brought up four lovely children who are all thriving, successful and happy. After finding it impossible and unhealthy to continue in my marriage, at last I am now with someone who completely understands me and likes what she finds!

My desire long term is to create a rainbow kinky pansexual poly family, and as time passes, we shall eventually be seeking slaves of various gendae for permanent positions, to take care of our needs and be looked after in return. What we seek will be total and absolute. Love will most certainly be an important part of what we seek, in the divine and sacred symbiosis of loving domination and submission.

My sexual preferences are not defined by gender. I like slim or athletic, smooth bodies and have a great love of androgyny, transsexuality and people of uncertain sex or sexuality. Small breasts are good on any sex, I much prefer them to large ones. Tomboy girls are a turn on as are butch lesbians. With males I am only interested if young and lithe. Effeminate homosexuality is delicious. I am turned off by body hair (hate my own and may require you to wax it for me) and I cannot abide obesity in lovers. Fat friends are fine!

My predilections are intensely sexually based, with gratification being the prime motivator to them. I like to satisfy others, but if their choice is only to satisfy me, that is OK too. Sexually, I have an unusually well developed libido and am able to sustain an erection for many hours in the right circumstances. I am also multi-orgasmic. Nymphomaniacs take note!

One of my kinks is to put a sub with someone outside their natural sexuality. That's about as near as I come to actual sadism, though am willing to administer mild correction if required, but not really for my own pleasure. Whilst on the subject of kinks, exposing and displaying slaves or subbies for the pleasure of others is another one I have. Showing off my property! Corrupting innocent young heterosexuals into delicious homosexuality is a delight! As is forcing a gay subbie to copulate with someone of the opposite sex!

Please note: When I use the word "corruption", I do so in a kinky sense rather than a literal one. It has come to my notice that this can be misinterpreted, as was one of my posts on a yahoo group recently. I do not actually corrupt anybody; I just like to help people to experience harmless pleasures that they might not have opened their minds to without the encouragement of others. Nothing is non-consensual; all is done in a caring and loving way.

I have no sympathies whatsoever for political correctness. My thoughts are unconstrained by social conventions. I am a free thinker with a multi-dimensional sexual, moral, political and love ethos. I am not a swinger nor do I do one night stands. Sexual safety is paramount. I like being alive and I intend to stay that way indefinitely. You will be vetted; I love my family.

I am relatively new to the lifestyle, having fought with my inner desires for many years until just a few years ago I finally understood the true meaning and morality of who and what I am and why it is right for me to be me, and why it is right for me to treat those who wish me to do those things in the way that they wish to be treated.

While I am now totally comfortable with my dominant desires and personality, I must emphasise that I am, by nature, a very gentle soul. I am intensely civilised, with a great appreciation of the finer things in life, music, the arts, the beauty of nature, so many hedonistic pleasures.

Intellectually, I have always identified an androgyny in myself, though if you check the censored nude picture here or uncensored on my yahoo profile you will see that I look completely male. That profile also points to a little web page I created, where, for the amusement of all, I have put a gender identity test (by Bem). In the spirit of openness, my Bem score is about 14, which surprised even me! I am quite happy about it though! I say intellectually, because I am referring to creativity as being a partly feminine ability. I am a designer, inventor, engineer, programmer and several other things. I also play the piano a little and hold a pilots licence.

Being dominant for me is not a part time thing nor just sexual. I have run my own affairs and business all my life, never had a boss and was a rebel throughout my education with a hatred of all authority, in fact, I am largely self educated. I am dominant by nature. I like, perhaps even need, to be in control. Yes, I have very occasionally wondered about giving up that control in a sexual environment, but I have found that it just doesn't work for me. I can have sex and love in an equal relationship, and have had for many years, but there was always something missing, the lack of control, that desire that frequently aroused me on hot summer nights to awake and gaze at my lover's beautiful body glistening naked in the warm moonlight, desiring to take her there and then but knowing that she would vociferously object.

And that objection is for me a complete and utter turn off. I am no rapist; I am simply not capable of it. My desire is for lovers of any sex who accept my need and willingly - even eagerly - submit to it. And in return, they will have my loyal love and devotion to giving them the pleasure of their desires and dreams while always taking care of them. In many ways, the master can be said to serve the submissive, in a loving relationship, which is what I seek.

Interestingly, my LTR partner is not a submissive! She is just open to the delights of deeper exploration of the human psyche. I don't even try to label her as dominant, nor switch, it is not appropriate for her. Our relationship is based on incredibly deeply felt vanilla love with sensual and emotional curiosity fully enabled.

A word about pain: I have no way to directly experience for myself the pleasure that some people get from pain and humiliation because I am not made that way. I have a rudimentary non-professional understanding of how the biological mechanism of production or release of endorphins and Serotonin in the brain cause elation and pleasure, and from talking with submissives, I have a basic understanding of what makes some of them tick, though I am conscious that we are all different and therefore of how much I have to learn about anybody new who I interact with. Not being a sadist, I don’t relish inflicting pain, to do so would be a pure service, I think.

Some (insane) people jump out of serviceable aircraft at high altitude and fall to earth suspended by string tied to sheets of thin material made from caterpillar secretions to get the same buzz as masochists. Others run marathons etc. The nearest I come to experiencing such things is from the exhilaration in doing things like driving a racing car at very high speed or flying an aeroplane. I recall one notable incident when driving home afterwards I had a huge feeling of elation, despite having had a minor emergency in the air that could have killed me, and the feeling of wanting to fly again as soon as possible. But another great pleasure in flying has always been the precision and control I exercised (I haven’t flown for ages). I never wanted to risk my life and am afraid of heights so would never do a parachute drop unless the aircraft was on fire and about to explode.

I emphasise my kind and gentle nature, because, for me, inflicting pain is something I would not expect to enjoy doing. I have not been asked to do this; I am simply just curious about it in case I do get asked. For me, experiencing pain is a turn off, and I have a very low pain threshold because my body is super-sensitive. I even have around double the normal number of taste buds; I experience life with an intensity that can be almost overwhelming at times. Pain is unbearable for me, but pleasure is intoxicating rapture! My capacity for pleasure is exceptional.

Most certainly, if my lover asked me to inflict pain, I would overcome my inhibition and do it for them, taking great care not to go too far. Whether this would be nothing more than a service for my love, or whether I would derive any enjoyment, I don't yet know for sure, to be scrupulously honest, but I don't expect to enjoy it. I have an unquenchable curiosity, which is why I could overcome my inhibition in this respect.

But for me, being dominant is more about control and being trusted with that control; a great honour to be treasured, properly respected and very highly prized! There are many ways that control can be exercised - I won't bother with a salacious list here as I am sure everyone has a perfectly good imagination! But it is that control and submission to it that makes everything work for me. And I am willing to take that to the ultimate level of Master / slave relationships, with the right people.

I am a lifelong naturist, so the photos on my profile and web site (which you can find from my yahoo profile) are nude. My face is not clearly shown as I am very well known in my industry internationally and I sell into various gruesome totalitarian countries where nudity, homosexuality and kink are punishable by death. Email me and I will send you a clear face picture.

I am always happy to make friends in the lifestyle, whether or not for sexual activity and can be found at such as the Guildford Munch, 3rd Wednesday lunch time each month. Email me for details if you want to come along.

While I am not actively seeking slaves for immediate engagement just yet, I am certainly keeping my eyes open for future possible acquisitions, and am very happy to get to know potential candidates. I am in no hurry, and will take my time to select exactly the right people, who can benefit from the kind of family I want to create, as well as bringing the right things to us. I am firmly of the view that a D/s or M/s relationship cannot work unless there is an underlying vanilla one that also works. So although I may be readily willing to meet you, further activity will depend on further interaction. I am not your instant Dom. Good things may come to those who are patient.

If you have read this far and are still interested in me, you may be one of those I might invite to walk naked with me into the exotic and steamy forests of erotic love and deep human desire...